Since you can’t change someone else and can only change you, it’s up to you to assert your value by taking away whatever it is that makes you more vulnerable to mind games.5) Mind games never inspire love or create a genuinely loving relationship Mind games players have one and only one motive, and that is to advance their needs, goals, interests or agenda at the expense of the person being played.Most people are intuitive enough to realize when and how they’re being played and walk away, but even where the mind games “succeed”, the relationship will become troubled over time.Your thoughts will always seep out into your actions) and through your actions, you are essentially begging for him back.You have to take a step back, take a breath and vow to put an end to the crazy, an END to the insanity.When tempted to “play” remember that the only person whose time and emotions you waste playing mind games is you.2) You’re voluntarily and actively giving away your power to someone else The illusion of mind games is that the person playing them thinks he/she is smarter than the person he/she is playing – and of course the smarter of the two has the “emotional power”.But when you allow someone else to affect you so much that you don’t act in alignment with your values, who you are and what you really want, you’ve already lost the “emotional power”.
You want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back now?In short, refuse to play the game and there will be no game to play. You miss the way that YOU felt and the girl that you were when you were with him when the relationship was good. I’m sharing it with the knowingness (I KNOW because you guys are all so strong and so badass) that, by the time he does come throwing his scraps your way again, you’ll be empowered, healed, self-assured and strong enough to recognize the scraps for what they are and at that point, will have moved on.Your emotions will go up and down (and all over the place) depending on how the other person chooses to react or respond. 3) The power of any mind game lies in the other person not being aware of how and when they’re being played If you know that your ex is playing mind games with you, the best antidote to mind games is to tell him/her that you know what he/she is trying to do/is up to, you do not like it, do not approve of it and will not encourage it.A person who truly values a relationship with you (and is mature/emotionally healthy enough to be in a relationship with you) will feel bad and stop the mind games.That is, they have something about them that mind game players are able to take advantage of/exploit to advance their needs, goals, interests or agenda.