I am actually Colombian, my family is Colombian, and more importantly (aside from my height, 6’2″) I look Colombian.
I have lived my entire life, barring the past 5 years of course, in Southern California.
Penetrating that group of friends, playing “the game” in order to get to your “target girl” is hard work, and sometimes does not work if you don’t speak Spanish well enough for her to understand.
Many guys who come to Colombia cannot pick up girls in their own native language let alone in Spanish and some even have the audacity to say that the women here are just “gold diggers” or “too difficult” and that is not accurate at all.
More often than not I’m not even interested in talking to the girl; I just want to dance and have fun. Amazingly, when I do that, women are more attracted than when I start talking to them while dancing.
A certain amount of negligence after making an impression piques a woman’s interest, it is the whole psychological framework of the type of women who wants a strong man (check out this great article on Psychology Today by Gina Barreca, Ph.
When I first arrived here, there wasn’t yet a complete guide to dating paisa women.
Do not even get me started on the gym, it is almost like a circus sideshow in there.
Seeing beautiful women here is so common that Colombian men don’t even turn to look, it’s ridiculous.
Actually, I got more instant attention in Southern California; the “Latino effect.” The only thing that makes me stand out to women here is my height, thank God for that one tall great uncle! Regarldess, I look on the bright side and see this as an advantage.
I speak Spanish fluently; therefore, I can’t play the “…no jaaabl0 Españoler mucho bueno. I’m naturally outgoing and funny, so I can really be myself when speaking Spanish.
The “gringo effect” is the reaction a foreign guy gets from girls here in Medellin.