In a bid to pour some clarity on the issue, I investigated the vast and (occasionally) terrifying world of dating websites.I found sites fit broadly into four categories: Standard, Specific (sometimes laughably so), weird and plain wrong.I’m clearly in a minority, however, as at last count it had 500,000 members.
“On Twitter, actually” she says, clearly surprising even herself with her answer “which in a way is better.
She’s tried pretty much every mainstream online site going, but confesses that she isn’t really looking for love.“It’s more like a game of snap” she tells me.
“When someone expresses an interest in you, whether it’s with a message, a ‘like’ or a ‘wink’ it’s like ‘BOOM! It’s this little daily self-esteem boost – A way of flirting with no consequences and without even having the leave the house”.
I look back across the emotional wasteland of the last twelve months and my soul crumples.
The guys I meet are dull, manic, needy, indifferent, thick, obnoxious, selfish, mean, vain or ugly. Single people above the age of 30 are single for a reason. Dating seemed so tempting when I was in a relationship. In my increasingly pathetic and desperate search for someone to love, I embarked on a year of industrial dating that has left me deeply scarred and utterly miserable. Pay a couple of sincere compliments, you’re not giving away any power or dignity, it’s just nice.
Plenty of Fish is the largest dating site and has over 90 million users, but you can also get a paid premium service.