Before you sign up for every dating app you’ve heard your single friends raving about, imagine what you want this whole adventure to look like.
“Take some time to be alone, be comfortable being alone and with yourself, and decide what it is that you really want out of your next relationship,” suggests Jane Coloccia, author of Some people like to meet potential dates at bars or cafes. Others prefer to go looking for love—or at least fun—online via the use of a dating app.
We’d rather learn about your baggage while also discovering all your amazing qualities. You may be tempted to fib or lie by omission in the name of presenting yourself as a youthful, free-wheeling bon vivant.
Then we’ll love you for you—battle scars and all.” And for more dating-app tips, here are the 30 Worst Phrases to Use on Your Dating Profile. Everyone is laid back and loves to travel and enjoys movies. While stretching the truth might help you attain or maintain the interest of a potential partner in the short term, it won’t be long before the reality becomes apparent and you’re still single.
While being authentic is key, being a pill or a grouch is unlikely to have people salivating to spend an evening with you.
More importantly, negativity is indicative of pain, which, by your 40s, you’ve probably experienced.
And besides, you may feel a bit rusty—even nervous! Today, we’re all a lot more searchable and socially connected, so, just as you’d leave a “positive paper trail” for potential employers who Google you, you need to do the same for your love life.
Now, you needn’t go all Ken doll on us, but if your chest, back, and privates are indistinguishable from those of a grizzly bear, a trim may well be appreciated. Bombfell, Stitch Fix and Trunk Club all exist because of men who feel like you do about shopping.
If she’s going to yours, always remember to solicit enthusiastic, verbal consent for everything you do.
And unless you want to appear totally out of touch, avoid the 40 Sayings Men Over 40 Should Stop Using Immediately.
“There are many potential partners out there that are diamonds in the rough.
It’s not always easy, but think outside the box.” While it’s tempting to want to lead with a picture of you in your late twenties, your date isn’t going to take kindly to the subterfuge when you show up looking your actual age.
Consequently, your body composition has probably taken a hit and your lard-to-hard ratio is not what it once was.