Dating and courtship book


Of course, “in the Lord” can and ought be more narrowly defined as in our Confession, so that “such as profess the true reformed religion should not marry with infidels, papists, or other idolaters:…[nor] such as are notoriously wicked in their life, or maintain damnable heresies” (WCF24.3).

One of the minuses is: “You are limited in who you can date.…My answer would be: how do you know it is God’s will for you to marry someone you have got to know very well by a long time of consistent dating?The point is, it is impossible for you to know if it is God’s will for you to marry someone until you are actually married to the person.Prudence would also dictate some other qualities to look for, such as godly Christian character with a fear of God and a desire to conform to the Word of God.Personal preferences and attraction may also influence our choices.In a letter to William Farel, John Calvin explained what he was looking for in a wife: I am none of those insane lovers who embrace even vices, once they have been overcome by a fine figure.

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