I'm an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia and I've been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I was 13.
Thanks to you I'm pretty open minded about my sexuality and body. I started watching porn from a youngish age with no real shame attached but I have some concerns. I get off really quickly to lesbian porn but it never feels like a "good" orgasm.
However, I worry that she's spent her whole life relying on her looks to gain validation from men, and that my brain-dead, loins-alive attraction is only perpetuating her objectification. There's nothing feminist about slagging off younger women to justify your attraction to older women.
Take it slow, maybe watch a few how-to videos in addition to the porn, find the positions and angles that work for you, etc., and work your way up to taking him all the way down. I recently met a hot older woman, age 46, who has told me she finds me equally hot. I just love their confidence and their comfort in their own skin. The problem is that I take a serious interest in feminism.You're not attracted to younger women, you're attracted to older women; instead of accepting that, you feel compelled to justify it by comparing younger women to older women and declaring—again, by implication—that there's something wrong with younger women.You sound like one of those gay men who can't tell you why he's attracted to dudes without also (or only) telling you what he dislikes about women.Are you associate girl, teen, single, adult, boys, dating etc., you have private messaging features.You can also do online chat on your smart phones because Chat786 is also available on Android, i OS, Blackberry and Window phone.(Particularly when that someone is clearly objectifying you!